The traditional model for mediation is to take two parties that want to mediate and to help them find a compromise that is acceptable to both. It is our experience that finding an acceptable compromise leaves both parties relieved but less than enthusiastic. Compromise is the highest possible ground when parties are in a reactive state of mind, which is the state of mind from which parties typically seek mediation. Our expertise allows us to conduct mediations in which each party is operating from a healthy state of mind. In a healthy state of mind people have a tendency to be more open, more sensible, more generous, and more willing to see the other person's viewpoint. The rapport we have with our mediation clients allows us great latitude in challenging participants' positions when we think them unreasonable.

We have also found positive results in conducting "hostile mediation," which involves mediation between parties in which one or both parties have refused to mediate. We have expertise in approaching mediation-resistant parties and illustrating how mediation is in their best interests. We offer a free initial interview to explore one's situation and get a feel for how we would go about the mediation process.

Frequently Asked Questions:
Why should I use you instead of a lawyer?
We feel that the option of mediation offers benefits that are not characteristic of the litigation process. We have found that mediation involves a fraction of the cost of litigating the same issue with the parties involved. In addition, our mediation is designed to be substantially less wearing on participants. More importantly, litigation proceeds on the basis that parties will be forced to make and abide by conditions decided either in negotiations or in court. We are committed to developing settlements that speak to, and incorporate the concerns of all involved parties. The end result is an agreement that both parties are willing to sign up for. For example, in divorce or business mediation in which the parties involved have an ongoing relationship, the mediation process does not destroy or damage the relationship as litigation can typically do, and in fact, some are able to flourish again.

What makes you think that mediation can succeed after a history of long-term problems and animosity?
Antagonism and ill-will create deadlock. Our ability to mediate difficult situations is empowered by the realization that deadlock and antagonism are intimately related. Deadlock is a symptom of a psychological situation rather than a circumstantial one. There is no situation that will not look difficult and challenging, if not impossible, through the eyes of suspicion and antagonism. Likewise, there is no situation for which there is not satisfactory, if not ingenious, solution if only our minds were open to it. By assuming the position of independent and neutral participant our central role is to serve as a psychological guide and monitor. Our role is to help participants see the situation clearly, neutrally and with a vision for possibility. This will, by definition, break deadlocks and create an environment in which the concerns and desires of both parties can be engaged productively and amicably.

What if one person doesn't want to mediate?
People are not always clear about the benefits of mediation or even that such a solution is possible in any given situation. We consider it our responsibility to give people a vision for the possibilities and the power behind the mediation process. We consider it our responsibility to discuss the idea of mediation with the parties concerned so that they can come to an informed choice about the strategies available in resolving the issue at hand. Often it is helpful for people to talk with us as we represent a neutral party with whom they can discuss their options in a way that is not colored by their distress, anxiety or animosity about the issue or the other people concerned.

What is the format of your mediation process?
Our mediation programs vary widely. The form of our involvement and the process involved is largely dictated by the situation and the parties involved. The first step would be to contact our office and set up an initial interview to assess the situation and make a game plan.